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Giralph, the 13-foot installation

October 6, 2014

I interrupt this regularly scheduled blog silence to bring you… Giralph, the 13-foot giraffe decoration I made for Alice-Anne’s birthday “party” this past weekend.


Everyone who saw this epic wall hanging insisted that it make the front page of Kate Schmate, so I couldn’t disappoint.

in the worksAlice-Anne has had a giraffe lovie since before she was born, so of course her birthday had to be giraffe-centered. After a living room furniture re-arrangement, we had a big gap on the wall. JD thought of the brilliant idea, and after some sketching, Giralph came to life.

I rarely am totally satisfied with the things I create, but I was thrilled at how epic and fun the decorations were. Despite it being completely over-the-top for a *very* small family party, it was fun to celebrate with new art.

I also made a strawberry cake from this recipe, using Ponchatoula strawberries. It was definitely a winner with the least picky person in our household (Alice-Anne). I would recommend it for any occasion.

The birthday girl also had a great time!





Friday Feast: Slow Cooker Honey Sesame Chicken

March 7, 2014


Oh, hey! Yeah yeah yeah, I know… it’s been *quite* awhile. More on that later.  Let me just PLEASE share this awesome recipe with you.

Ten years ago, some lovely person gave us a crock pot for our wedding. It was even on our registry. But it took us ten years to actually use it. JD and I literally wiped dust off of the top of the box.

But, when Alice-Anne was born (again, I’ll catch you up later), we were brought two amazing recipes… a beef stew and this sesame chicken recipe, both of which required a slow cooker. We wanted to try making them ourselves and decided to finally take the crock pot out of the box for the sake of yummy grub.

Some new things I’ve learned about the crock pot: your house smells amazing for a long time, the loose pot lid may scare your two-year-old, and I may have been missing something by not using this darn dish for so long! Here is an amazing recipe for a pretty great dinner, thanks to Damn Delicious:

Crock Pot Sesame Honey Chicken

  • 1 small onion, diced

  • 2 cloves garlic, minced

  • 1/2 cup honey

  • 1/2 cup soy sauce (we used the low-sodium)

  • 1/4 cup ketchup

  • 2 tablespoons vegetable oil

  • 1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes

  • 2 pounds boneless, skinless chicken thighs (this is specific and important)

  • salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste

  • 1 green onion, thinly sliced for garnish

  • Sesame seeds, for garnish

  • In a large bowl, combine onion, garlic, honey, soy sauce, ketchup, vegetable oil and red pepper.
  • Season chicken thighs with salt and pepper, to taste. Place chicken thighs into a slow cooker. Add honey mixture and gently toss to combine. Cover and cook on low heat for 3 hours and 30 minutes.
  • Remove chicken thighs from the slow cooker and shred the chicken before returning to the pot with the juices. Cover and keep warm for an additional 30 minutes.
  • Serve immediately, garnished with green onions and sesame seeds, if desired.

This was just awesome, and I highly recommend it!

I’m here!

July 1, 2013




More soon… just taking some time to smell the yellow flowers.

Babies Need Stuff

March 29, 2013
ferris wheel
“The Wheel in the Sky” by The Gingham Owl
I remember the panic… I was in my second trimester pregnant with Maggie, and my mom had said I needed a registry for a few baby showers on the horizon. I didn’t know where to begin, and I was adamant that I didn’t want a lot of “stuff” for our impending arrival. (My baby was going to continue my minimalist lifestyle. I was NOT going to give in to Baby Consumerism!) So I read a few blogs, gathered some info from friends, and sat down with my mom on the couch and started registering. Looking back on that time, I had NO IDEA what I needed.
When a girlfriend jokingly g-chatted me the other day, asking me to make her registry for her baby due this fall, I remembered that time in my life where I was panicking about doing this very same thing. So I thought about it and assembled the list below for her. As it turned out, gathering the list came so easily to me. It was fresh on my mind since I was just sorting through things that Maggie didn’t need anymore.
The email to my pal became so epic, I decided to share it here with you because perhaps it will be helpful. Of course, I preface this with: everyone is different, has different preferences, wants different things… this is not a commentary on parenting style or even an exhaustive list of everything you may ever need. This is just what I needed and wanted. My only hope is that it provides a glimpse and a skeleton of what you may need if this ever comes up for you!
(All links are for Buy Buy Baby and Babies R Us, since those are the registries my friend requested. I personally chose Target and Amazon, but all of this baby stuff is pretty much available at all of those sites.)


Bath seat (NO PLASTIC… too cold, this is the best)
bath robe/towel (you need at least one of these!)
bath toys (because your baby will be smart)
No need to put baby soap, shampoo, or washcloths on your registry… people just get them for you. Rarely will you need lotion, and almost never will you need baby powder.
cradle cap scrubber (this is not at your stores, but this is a very important product.)
Diaper Champ (No need for special bags, intuitive, good.)
Contour changing pad
Changing pad cover/liner (register for 2)
Depending on if you get an actual diaper changing stand, you may not need the changing pad. BUT, we used a very old coffee table and put a chair next to it and that was that. We didn’t want to buy extra furniture.
Diaper bag… yeah, use something, maybe a backpack, but this may not warrant a registry item.
Pampers and Target-brand diapers were the only brands we liked.
You won’t need a crib until maybe 6-8 weeks or so. Until then, you’ll want a bassinette to put next to your bed for during-the-night feedings. Try to borrow this. Otherwise, here’s a good option.
Swaddlers (you need at least one set of the Aden and Anis swaddlers. They are multifunctional!!)
more swaddlers (I would register for at least three to see which you like best.)

swaddle 3 (MIRACLE product when she got stronger)
Woombie (also excellent)
sound machine (if you decide to do that. We have and we watch very loud movies and all is right with the world.)
A friend x 2 (you’ll want to incorporate a “lovie” that they associate with sleep time. And you’ll want to get two in case Lovie #1 gets lost. TRUST ME.)
THIS SHEEP… great for the car, traveling, just good for soothing
Mittens… no kidding around here.
Monitor… we decided on a video monitor, and it’s awesome. This is more of a personal choice though. Ours is a Samsung, but you can choose whatever you guys are most comfortable with. The video monitor was by far the registered item I most rolled my eyes at, but JD wanted it. Now that we have it… whoa it is wonderful. I have no clue what I would do without it.
Crib… a completely personal choice. I actually had mine from when I was young and I repainted it… worked great.
But you will need a mattress and a mattress pad.
As for bedding… lots of people care about the bedding. I just wanted two crib sheets to rotate. Everything else is a choking hazard anyway.
People will give you a THOUSAND blankets… just stay away from registering for them. Nice people will give you tons at showers, and they could make and pick out nicer blankets than you could register for anyway!
bottles… at the beginning, babies need a slow flow, but then when they are about 6 months or older, they’ll need a faster flow. I would recommend THESE at the beginning, but then, I used all glass ones from then out. Not sure if you’re cool with these, you may just like plastic, but I loved them. 5 bottles is really all you need if you want to be minimalist. If you’re lazy, I’d recommend 8. For the faster flow bottles, you’ll need them around 8-10oz.
bottle brush (you’ll need a few… I’m on my third.)
bottle dryer rack (Don’t get the stuff that goes in the dishwasher. You’ll use bottles more than you use the dishwasher.)
nursing cover (if you go that way)
pump (if you go that way)
pump holder (don’t register for this… just buy it and save yourself hours)
Boppy (if you go that way but also great for sitting infants up on floor comfortably)
Boppy cover (if you go that way, but good to get two slipcovers)
Do not register for bibs. You’ll get a thousand unsolicited bibs.
So… high chairs. Before we created our registry, a very generous friend of the family sent us the Svan chair, which is totally cool and will convert to a seat when your baby is bigger and can scoot up to the table. But it’s kind of expensive. I’ve also heard a lot of cool things about Boon Flair (I think more of a variety is out there but that link was on one of the two sites.). Otherwise, I know to stay away from cloth because it gets extremely dirty.
For traveling and friends’ visits, we also own this easy strapping one that Minimalist Me thought would serve all purposes (which it probably would if we didn’t get the Svan).
Infant carseat (Infant carseats can be taken in and out of your car by attaching to a base. If you have a second base for your spouse’s car, you can leave the carseat at daycare and attach the carseats easily between your two cars. This is super helpful, especially for running into the store, etc. This was something I didn’t think was necessary but it was extremely helpful to not move a sleepy infant while going from car to house.)
Regular carseat for when baby is older (might as well ask for it now… it’s expensive. We got one before Maggie was born, and then asked for a second one this Christmas. Maggie still fits in the infant carseat, but she’ll be bursting out soon enough.)
Depending on what infant carseat you get, you’ll want to purchase the same brand stroller so that the infant carseat can fit into the stroller, and then when the kid gets bigger, you can just use the stroller. These are called “travel systems” and you can look for them depending on what you want. I’d recommend sticking to one brand of carseats so you can just be used to the type of seatbelts… because they are confusing.
Also, something that I want now that I wish I had is a lightweight collapsible stroller that is easy to carry and good for throwing in and out of the car for shopping, fairs, farmers markets, etc. THIS is a good, cheap stroller.
Medicines, assorted stuff
Aquaphor… register for it… it’s amazing and expensive. It’s the cure-all… our pediatrician highly recommends it for everything: diaper rash, weird rashes anywhere, wrinkle cream for you. AMAZING.
thermometer (ours doesn’t work very well, so I don’t want to recommend ours.)
Infant tylenol (maybe 2? dye free! Otherwise, you have to administer it in the bathtub.)
Gas drops (yes)
Boogie wipes… totally great.
saline mist since they don’t know how to blow their nose
sunscreen (babies are special)
pacifiers (this will be a personal choice, and your baby may choose for you! I linked the one Maggie liked.)
Itzbeen… AMAZING. We brought this with us to the hospital, and it’s a wonderful tool. I’m sure there’s an app that also does this, but this was great for caretakers to have so that they would know things also.
Bumbo (just register for one, pick your color. If you can borrow it, all the better)
Swing (go with the space saver!!) or (Maggie’s daycare endorsed) bouncy seat (You probably don’t need both, but you’ll need this to just put your kid in when it needs soothing and you’re exhausted. Or this may be the only way it goes to sleep for awhile. Or you need to shower and you don’t know what else to do.)
pack n play I actually own a different one for traveling, but my mom has one very similar to this because she wanted a pack n play to have at her house for us, and I prefer hers. It has a changing table which is super helpful when you’re out traveling and you don’t have to pack your own changing pad.
Bjorn carrier (We have this one, and JD loves it. I’ve used this often in the first year because I like having my hands free.)
sling (I’ve written about these before on Schmate but I looooove mine. Lots of pretty fabrics, so go with the Peanut Shell!)
mirror for your car… I mean, it’s just helpful, especially for long trips.
I’m sure I have forgotten something, but those are my big items. And, don’t worry… there is always a Target nearby, or Amazon Prime, which gets things to you super fast (free trials are totally worth it right after you have the baby!!).

Going Back to Work as a Mama

March 12, 2013


Soaring Baby Giraffe by Trafalgar’s Square

In the past week, I’ve had three separate conversations with newly-pregnant women who are worried about going back to work after having their baby. This is a very difficult thing to do, one that I received a lot of advice on from trusted friends who had also gone through it. Because of our health insurance conundrum, we had no choice but for me to go back to work or our family would be severely underinsured. (Hopefully that will change in the future!) Regardless of reason, it’s hard to go back to work after maternity leave. There were (and still are at times) many tears shed after drop-off. Here are a few things that I wanted to share, because I felt so alone and sad. My hope is that these tips will help others in the same situation.

It doesn’t get easier, it just gets more normal. My girlfriend Misty told me this leading up to my first day of drop-off, and boy did that resonate with me. Just like people told me that having Maggie would “change us,” I didn’t really get why… but you just can’t really know until your kid is here. And you realize that a kid changes something for everyone but not in the same way. Once we established a routine, I felt worlds better, and I could feel the rhythm of our mornings.

Talk to your child in the car and tell her about all the exciting things she gets to do at school that day. It seriously made me feel better than the drive of shame.

Feel confident in the location that you are leaving your child. I could not leave Maggie in the mornings if not for the awesomeness of Ms. Sandy and Ms. Amy and all the other loving people that actually enjoy caring for her. Maggie is loved, cherished, treasured, and taught well while I am gone. I think her school is great. I would feel even worse had I not felt 110% confident in her school.

Reward yourself for getting back in the car. The roughest part of the day is walking back to your car after you leave your child for the day. Oh man, that walk is the worst. What has helped tremendously is some kind of “reward” once you get inside… a book on tape (Tim Keller has been extremely comforting), a thermos full of coffee you don’t allow yourself to have until you get back in the car, and calling your mother or a friend. Distractions are key here. Sounds silly… but it works!

Go to lunch with people, including your husband! Instead of wallowing in the misery of being apart from your child all day, take advantage of the time at work. Pay your bills at your breaks, visit with friends by meeting them for lunch, have coffee with your network… make the time at work feel like your “adult” time. This is also the best time to catch up and have dates with your husband! No need for a babysitter! Overall, this particular tip has been hugely helpful to my social side, especially when I felt guilty about taking time away from Maggie in the evenings and weekends when I wanted to see friends after work.

Give yourself some slack. There’s going to be a day when you’re slightly relieved that you drop your child off… whether it is because you are excited about what is going on at work, or if you were just spit up on, or if you just need a second of silence. Why feel guilty for not feeling guilty? It’s a stupid potential cycle. Consider that day a gift of no guilt and know that days ahead may not be that easy.

You’ll figure it out and make your own routine. Of course this is different for everyone, and what worked for me may not work for you. Obviously, I’d much rather be at home, so this may not be the standpoint of everyone dropping their child off in the mornings. But, I do wish I knew a little more about the process at the beginning… the first 6 months were quite rough. But it does get better.

Maggie’s First Birthday Party

March 2, 2013

age one

Throughout most of Maggie’s first year of life, I had this nagging feeling that Maggie’s first birthday party was supposed to be a huge deal: lots of friends, lots of decorations, lots of fuss. I had seen gorgeous pictures of other friends’ parties for their children, and I had started feeling the weight of making that happen for Maggie’s big day at the end of February.

But, once Christmas came and went, I was feeling a little fatigue and began picturing the logistics of a large party. After considering everything and weighing my guilt (which I decided to work on in the Year 2013), we made an executive decision to have a very small party with just immediate family, and we all couldn’t be happier! Maggie especially… it was a fun afternoon of new toys, yummy BBQ, and delicious cake and desserts!

My original theme was to do a Monkey party (with a Pinterest board of inspiration and all!), but I ended up doing only a banner of bananas plus a table full of pictures and other monkey items. We also had banana pudding (thanks to JD’s mom) and Monkey Bread.


Best of all, we had a special cake made from an old college friend, Alex, from Sweet Betweens. Maggie had her own banana cake, made especially for her sensitive baby stomach! Alex was awesome and did everything to accommodate our requests. And, Maggie LOVED her cake. When presented with her very own cake, she delicately picked at it, but ate quite a bit over about a half an hour! She enjoyed being somewhat clean with her eating, but we could tell she loved eating. It was so sweet, since we haven’t really given her much sugar at all since she started eating solid food.

sweet betweens banana cake

Overall, it was a wonderful day filled with our loving family around our favorite girl. I’m so glad I didn’t let the crazy expectations of a big first birthday party get in the way of the fun.



February 24, 2013


Maggie turned one year old today. We had a very small gathering of just immediate family yesterday, and she was able to enjoy (immensely) a yummy cake. It was her very first bite of cake, and it was all hers!

More to come about this low-stress, low-key, high-happiness event very soon.